Excerpts of some of the emails Nancy Lanza sent to a friend, touching on her family's history and her feelings on kids and weapons.
It ran in the family.
Newtown school killer Adam Lanza’s mother Nancy told friends in emails and in private chats about a genetic disorder that killed her grandfather, nearly took her life and had already manifested itself in her son.
“Nancy indicated that Adam’s issues were genetic like hers,” friend Marvin LaFontaine told the Daily News.
Adam Lanza had been diagnosed with the form of autism known as Asperger’s syndrome, and a sensory perception disorder that prevented him from recognizing pain and caused him to recoil from being physically touched.
But only his mother feared he was suffering from the family’s black plague.
In hundreds of Nancy Lanza’s emails obtained by The News, she said doctors had no explanation for the autoimmune disorder that killed her grandfather in just six weeks.
Doctors found lesions on her brain in 1999, and Nancy Lanza described her illness as “like living on top of a time bomb.” But she decided not to tell her children.
“I am carrying the gene for this type of self-destruct,” she emailed LaFontaine at the time. “My diagnosis was not good. I was going under the premise that I had a limited time left . . . about enough to get the boys settled in. . . . At one point I was trying to deal with the time frame of about 12 months.”
The disease went into remission, but she told a pal in January 2012 it had “flared up.”
By November, she realized her son’s troubles were deeper than just genetics.
Just two weeks before the Newtown shooting, Nancy discovered ghastly and sinister pictures in her son’s room featuring dead bodies, but she did not confront him.
“One (drawing) had a woman clutching a religious item, like rosary beads, and holding a child, and she was getting all shot up in the back with blood flying everywhere,” a friend said.
“Nancy was disturbed, really disturbed, but didn’t confront him,” he said. “She wanted to think it over.”
As the world now knows, on Dec. 14, Nancy was shot dead by her son, who then killed 26 more people during a rampage at Sandy Hook Elementary School.
Since that rampage, Connecticut cops have been poring over evidence seized from the 20-year-old killer’s bedroom, but have yet to disclose any details.
Nancy Lanza’s emails, some dating to 1999, also reveal that she coddled her children, particularly Adam, and was outraged by news of school violence.
After being told in March 1999 of an incident in New Hampshire involving a student attacking another with a nail, Nancy Lanza’s outrage hinted at her growing frustration over Adam’s troubles.
“That kid (with the nail) should be expelled from school,” she wrote in an email in March 1999. “(Schools) go on and on about their great ‘zero tolerance’ regarding drugs and alcohol . . . but go ahead and let a kid attack another with a weapon!
“They will spend THOUSANDS of dollars on that child to keep an aide sitting with him . . . and then they say they don’t have money for one hour a week of speech therapy for a smart, quiet child with a speech impairment,” she wrote, apparently referring to Adam.
On Sunday, The News reported that Adam Lanza idolized his Uncle Jim, a hero New Hampshire cop and former Green Beret. Friends said Adam’s dreams of following his uncle’s footsteps into the military were dashed because of his wide spectrum of mental problems that may have triggered his killing spree.
“I really miss having my brother right next to me. I always felt so safe that way,” Nancy Lanza emailed LaFontaine.
She recalled how her brother gave her self-defense lessons as a girl.
“I don’t know if there is a name for the kind of training the Green Berets get . . . they are simply trained to kill,” she wrote.
Nancy Lanza kept a collection of guns, including those her son used to kill her and commit the slaughter, but her emails made no mention of weapons. They also did not hint of the bullying her friends claim Adam endured as a student at Sandy Hook.Her emails also show that she was a doting mother, who threw birthday parties for Adam and his older brother Ryan, and made sure their summers were full of fun activities.
In retrospect, one email about her parenting philosophy was especially chilling, considering Nancy’s fate on Dec. 14.
“Parental bonds are formed so early in life . . . they are either there or they aren’t. It is a direct product of how much the parent put into that relationship,” she wrote. email@example.com