The discord server is back open, it's open to anyone but particularly focused on supporting questioners and detransitioners, ultimately it is a support space.
Discord
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Be civil (don't label or antagonize individual users here).
You will see words you like and dislike. Degrading or dehumanizing terminology toward self is permitted. Language applied to other members must be considerate of any views they hold and respectful of Reddit policies. Character attacks are not permitted, nor are derogatory labels for other users. Even if you yourself think an expression is neutral, don't call another user here by anything that could be taken the wrong way. Address action more than actors and always say "I" more than "you."
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Be tolerant (no bigotry/tribalism against individual users here).
This subreddit was created for all detrans folk. Users may express differing philosophical and political theories and beliefs, lightly or passionately, without disparaging other users for merely belonging to a group (especially groups into which we are born, eg sex, race, nationality, generation). Moderation is to be unbiased. Please respect freedom of thought, speech, and association while you are here.
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Be on topic.
Posts should be of interest in some way to detransitioners and those questioning. cMembers must follow post flair request or will be confronted have their post deleted and warned. Detrans folk may discuss controversial issues, but this isn't a debate space for persons without personal experience in detransition. Outsiders will be banned if seen giving advice or suggestions.
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Never promote cross-sex hormones or surgery.
Cross-sex hormones and surgery affect the body in ways that are not fully understood nor easily reversed. Many detransitioners report having felt pressure to pursue HRT and/or surgery in the past. Therefore, because this is a detransition-focused sub, advising others to start, continue or pursue further transitional care is discouraged here. Those with severe distress are advised to seek a professional opinion. (Reporting strictly positive experiences with treatments does not violate this rule)
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Respect users' privacy (no doxxing).
Content is posted here voluntarily and in good faith. However, all users should exercise appropriate care when sharing personal information to this or any subreddit. This forum is visible to the public, and bots regularly copy all Reddit content to third-party sites beyond moderators' control. Users who share personally identifying information about others users of this subreddit to this subreddit or to any other location without express permission of the other users are subject to ban.
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Posters must be detrans or questioning their gender transition with flair
Our subreddit is reserved for detransitioners/desisters and those questioning their own transition; your user flair must clearly indicate that you fall into this group. Healthcare or legal practitioners can apply for exception by messaging the moderators. User flair helps mods keep this forum on Reddit for all detransitioners. Violating content will be removed. Violators will be banned. If you need help setting user flair, do not hesitate to ask a moderator.
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Give space to detransitioners (no outsider soap-boxing).
Detrans folk and self-questioners may express controversial views here; those who haven't detransitioned or who aren't considering detransition may not. This is not a debate forum for the general public to prop their egos, promote their views, or evangelize. Please take it to another subreddit or be banned.
Outsiders are also free to post on r/ask_detransition which is open to those who are questioning, and are either trans or not.
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Advice giving should not have an ulterior motive
Members are encouraged to give advice to their fellow member here but there are unfortunately individuals who set a user flair and then strictly give advice only with no clarity on their own situation or status of their questioning/detransition status. These members with questionable post history will be investigated and subject to punishment if found to be exploiting the rules.
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Anti-detrans activism and tropes are unwelcome.
This subreddit puts detransitioners' rights, needs, and interests first. Detransitioners have for years experienced a culture of detransphobia, victim-blaming, and censorship. Users who belittle or blame us for our existence or experiences as detransitioners, users with a history of doing so anywhere online, and moderators of anti–detrans subreddits may be banned swiftly, long-term, or permanently.
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Spam is unwelcome.
Users who post the exact same content in three or more subreddits are usually bots and/or are being off-topic; they are therefore subject to immediate and permanent ban. Users who promote their own products and services must be related to the topic of detransition, must not break any other subreddit rule, and should not be posted more than once a week (and if they're repeatedly downvoted, they should take it elsewhere entirely).
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Clutter-making bots are unwelcome.
This sub is for humans. Bots that add automated content of little or no value may be banned permanently.
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Be forgiving and fair.
Censorship isn't our goal. Please vote, empathize, agree to disagree, or ignore and move onward. Please report content only if a rule is broken. Mods may delete content and ban users for short or long periods based on a person's history or association if it is deemed inherently harmful to any minority group.
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Polls must be moderator approved
Due to previous abuse and various acts of soapboxing and flair abuse polls that are posted will be automatically deleted and then later looked through by a moderator and possibly approved if given the okay. Moderators are not obligated to provide reason for not restoring polls.
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Cross-Posting from unapproved sources is forbidden
Crossposting posts from other subreddits is now forbidden unless you specifically seek out and gain permission to post about it on here. Other rules still apply but we will not tolerate any brigading whatsoever on our end.
In late 2017, the founder of this subreddit noticed that "r / detransition" was quietly deleting posts (https://archive.vn/2kWMf). It was then discovered that the creator of that sub was deceased (https://archive.is/rr7sb), the other three moderators had become mods hours after this death's announcement (https://archive.is/oA51m), and their profiles, histories, and activity showed a bias against detransition. The mods were contacted, as were Reddit admins for violation of the sitewide "no camping" rule, to no reply.
This newer subreddit seeks to put detransitioners' rights, needs, and interests first, while respecting all viewpoints in a civil environment.
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